Category: Dating and Relationships
Please first off, don't think this will sound racest because I have my own views onit. Ok You're blind, we've established a lot of us are. Is it right your parent should tell you they want you to date another blind person because well, you are and he is? For me, the answer is no. I'm not discounting i might fall for a blind person, but I won't actively seek out one either. The reason I feel like this is easy. For the most part there are two groups of blind people. Those who come from a blind school and may know how to cook walk down to the store etc, but have a serious lack in judgment and ecision making skills. I'm not perfect, but I'd rather be treated as a sighted kid. Any thoguhts?
Wow, eehm, first of eehm what does racism have to do with this, no mentioning of races anywhere in the email.
Secondly, there are two groups of blind people (so you way) and then you list one group .. I'm confused.
May be it's like "there are three kinds of people in the world, those who can count and those who cannot). ;)
But as for blind dating blind. There are a lot of reasons that speak against it, namely just practical living. It'd be a lot easier for a blind person to date someone who's sighted in a lot of ways. Two blind people would have the same problems as a single blind person only, in some cases, compounded. But, honestly, that's fine. If a blind person is independent and you are in love with him/her there's nothing you can't work out between you. But if it were purely up to logistics I'd encourage my kids who were blind to date sighted people, but ultimately you just got to date the person you love and take it from there.
No, I don't think it's right you should have the right to date whoever you want whether there blind or sighted.
I'll date sighted or blind girls. It is not an issue for me. It's more about the person specifically. If they are worth it... I do find that with a non sighted partner, you sometimes have more common ground though. And, that can be a good thing. Again, it's down to the two individuals in question!
I go out with people I want to go out with. The sighty/blindy classification doesn't even make the list. Of course there's household logistics involved, but I don't act on attraction based on if I think we could live together. I'm just not at that stage yet.
I think a parent who would limit you to dating exclusively blind or exclusively sighted folk just does not have the right idea. Yeah, just watch them tell you how much they mean well, right? On the one hand, you just can't throw two blind folks together and expect them to like each other merely for being blind, and unless your tastes and interests are very very mainstream, there's no guarantee that you'll find a blind person you'll have anything in common with in any group of them. Then, on the other hand, my impression is that most sighted people do not think of blind people as potential dating material unless they can look past the other person's blindness. Some sighted people might also want to date a blind person, not out of love, but because they want somebody to dominate and isolate. It really in the end depends on the individual, blind or sighted.
Yes. That is a very good point. Unfortunetly, as soon as someone knows that somebody else has a disability, this can rule them out as potential date material. for some odd reason, someone having a disability, whatever it might be, kills attraction. this is unfortunate and is the other person's loss. It doesn't make it hurt any less though...
My Parents never suggested that I date exclusively blind/vi girls, or blokes for that matter,it was never discussed and as I'm bi, the question of personaly safety and avoiding HIV ect,was much more important than the state of my lover's sight.
When I was a teen-ager, I boarded at a school for the blind, and spent holidays in a small south Texas town. So, when at school I dated visually impaired girls, and when at home I dated sighted girls. I was always more comfortable around the blind girls as we had more in common. Though sex was more possible among the sighted girls.
I eventually married a blind lady, and drew the wrath of my family--"who will drive for you all?" "What about the kids?" We eventually had two beautiful kids, and took the bus etc., and, though at times it was hard as my parents predicted, I wouldn't trade that experience for anything in the world.
I should say that my parents always seemed to want me to just date some nice girl and they did not specify that she be blind or sighted. When I was in my teens and twenties, however, I got the impression that those hypothetical other people, you know, society, expected me to socialize exclusively with the blind, the disabled, and anyone most sighted people did not want around, and to leave sighted people alone. I wasn't having any of that, but because I was a very naive person I can't say I fared well in the dating game at the time. Things are much better now, and the woman I'm now engaged to as of yesterday happens to be blind. My how things turn, eh?
Before I moved out on my own, my father was very harsh about my dating choices. He told me that if i ended up marrying a blind man, he wouldn't walk me down the aisle at the ceremony.
Now that i've been on my own for a couple of years, it really doesn't bother him anymore. I mean, he worries about me but he's not so mean about my future. He and my boyfriend, who's blind, get along just fine and Dad is walking me down the aisle when that day comes.
I've never had a preference as to whether my boyfriends were sighted or blind i just looked at their personality and actions toward me to determine their dateability
I think my parents would probably prefer that I marry someone sighted, but they know full well that's something they don't control. For me, I don't have a preference on blind or sighted. But back to the parents part, it's you who will be having a relationship with whoever you pick, not your parents, so pick who you want, not what they think would be best, though do listen to any advice they have. On ocasion I've found mine, sometime, have something to say that is worth listening to.
Hell, I don't take orders from anyone and no not even my parents. I mean reasonable things said in a nice way, is fine, but this, hell no.
I would prefer a sighted person, as they are generally more intellectual, but if the blind person is intellectual, and there is a few not very much though, I wouldn't mind it.